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Friday, July 25, 2014

Why being a goofball may be good for you!!

THE ADULT HUMAN is a serious animal: a worker, a thinker, a problem solver. He or she strives for focus and efficiency, resisting frivolity in the name of being a grown-up and staying on task.

This may not always be true. If it were, there probably wouldn’t be Ping-Pong tables popping up in America’s trendiest office buildings or karaoke nights in downtown Boston. And there probably wouldn’t be so many funny dog videos on Facebook or such a premium placed in social situations on making other people laugh.

The fact is, even the most responsible adults occasionally indulge in what can only be described as playfulness: pursuing delight in all its forms, engaging in friendly, low-stakes competition, and investing precious resources in amusing themselves and others. While it’s easy enough to say from personal experience that we do this stuff because it’s fun, scientists who specialize in the psychology of play have only recently started getting a grip on what it is that makes otherwise self-possessed, mature adults inclined toward fooling around and being silly—and what long-term benefits they get out of it.

“Adults are playful—that’s a fact,” said René Proyer, a psychologist at the University of Zurich who has written more than a dozen papers on adult playfulness over the past three years. “[But] psychologists haven’t thought much about this, probably because it wasn’t deemed worthy enough.”

What Proyer and the other researchers are discovering is that playfulness, as a personality trait, is not only complex but consequential. People who exhibit high levels of playfulness—those who are predisposed to being spontaneous, outgoing, creative, fun-loving, and lighthearted—appear to be better at coping with stress, more likely to report leading active lifestyles, and more likely to succeed academically. According to a group of researchers at Pennsylvania State University, playfulness makes both men and women more attractive to the opposite sex.

But wait: Before you run to the store to buy a yo-yo and a pair of roller skates in hopes of nailing your next exam or upping your romantic game, you should know that the whole endeavor of researching playfulness in adults involves a conundrum. As British researchers Patrick Bateson and Paul Martin argue in their 2013 book, “Play, Playfulness, Creativity and Innovation,” it’s crucial to distinguish between engaging in behavior that is technically play—battling it out in an intense game of tennis, for instance, or wasting time on an addictive iPhone game—and doing it in a way that is actually playful, which means being “cheerful, frisky, frolicsome, good-natured, joyous, merry, rollicking, spirited, sprightly [and/or] vivacious.” 

“Playfulness is something even laypeople can recognize when they see it,” said Xiangyou Sharon Shen, a research consultant with a PhD in leisure studies from Penn State who has developed a psychological instrument to determine a person’s predisposition toward playfulness. “But playfulness research is still in its infancy, in that there’s a lot of confusion and disagreement surrounding what playfulness even is, and how to measure it.”

It might seem ironic, even counterproductive, to try to nail down and analyze something as ineffable as “playfulness” as though it were a dead insect on a pin. But as researchers learn more about how it fits into the structure of human personality, it raises the hope that we can not only define playfulness scientifically, but actually teach ourselves to incorporate it into our lives, long after we’ve put our toys away.

Some of history’s great minds, including Charles Darwin, who was curious about the mechanics of tickling, and Sigmund Freud, who wrote about the role of play in emotional development,have been attracted with playfulness. With few exceptions, however, psychologists interested in play have focused on children rather than adults. Over the years, a wealth of research has suggested that child’s play is an important part of growing up—that, among other things, it helps kids “practice” for the real world by prompting them to solve problems and deal with emotions they might encounter later in life.

Playfulness in adults did not become a significant area of research until recently—perhaps because play tends to become less central as people get older. One of the first researchers to break with this tradition was Mary Ann Glynn, now a professor at Boston College, published a paper in the early 1990s that described adult playfulness as “a predisposition to define and engage in activities in a nonserious or fanciful manner to increase enjoyment.” Based on a series of lab experiments and surveys, Glynn and Webster concluded that playfulness in adults was linked to “innovative attitudes” and “intrinsic motivational orientation,” meaning playful people were more likely to do things without regard for their practical purpose. 

There are now four separate psychological “scales” designed to measure people’s inclination toward playful thinking and behavior. Multiple conferences have been held to discuss the value of play in the past several years. There is even a 10-hour documentary TV series being developed called “Now Playing,” about “the vital importance of play to our happiness, well-being, and the future of life.”

One of the most interesting findings so far is that playful people perform better academically. “The more playful the students were, the better the grades were,” he said. Another intriguing finding is that playful people are less likely to encounter stress in their lives, and that when they do, they’re better at coping with it. “People who are playful don’t run away from stress, they deal with it—they don’t do avoidance,” Barnett said.

In a separate study, Barnett found that people who scored high on her playfulness test were much better at entertaining themselves when forced to sit in an empty, boring room than people who didn’t. “The low-playfulness people hated it. They couldn’t wait to get out of there,” said Barnett. The high-playfulness test subjects, on the other hand, actively enjoyed being in the boring room, even though surveillance camera footage showed that they didn’t do anything but sit still while they were in there. “They were just in their heads—they entertained themselves.,” she said.

Another study, coauthored by Penn State professor Garry Chick, found that when asked about qualities they looked for in potential romantic partners, participants said they preferred playful people. Chick theorizes that this has evolutionary roots: Playfulness makes men seem less threatening to women, and women seem younger to men—and thus more fertile. A separate study conducted at Penn State, this one focused on the elderly, showed that playfulness in later life is associated with better cognitive and emotional functioning.
Playful people have a better time. But are you stuck with the level of playfulness that comes naturally to you, or is it something you can knowingly cultivate? “It’s the 64 million dollar question,” said Barnett, noting that the one relevant study she’s aware of, in which researchers tried to train children to become better at pretend-play, ended in failure. Even those researchers who do think of playfulness as a personality trait—a way of being in the world that persists over time and across situations—suspect it’s a malleable one, which people can develop in themselves if they want to. 

A lot of playfulness is spontaneity, unpredictability, just being adventurous. As soon as you employ your more rational cognitive faculties, you interfere with it. That doesn’t mean that adults—even the most goal-oriented among us—can’t ever be truly playful in the way we used to be as children. It just means we need to allow ourselves to indulge in the pleasures of pointless or sheerly enjoyable activity, whether that means board games, dancing, pulling pranks, or making other people laugh. Growing up, in other words, doesn’t have to mean cutting fun and lightheartedness out of our lives. On the contrary, it may mean realizing that engaging in such childishness is an excellent use of our time.


A birthday to remember

I recently celebrated my 75th birthday. It was a joyous occasion when we had dinner together with our oldest and dearest friends. It was especially a happy time since my son, Akhil had brought his son, my two and half year old grandson Nikhil, with him from Vietnam to celebrate this occasion. Another special gift was a birthday presentation book that my daughter, Shibani and son, Akhil had compiled and printed. Besides photos of long forgotten days, it contained messages and remembrances from old friends and associates, college mates and family members. Apparently my children had written to all my friends about the book and asked for their memories and many had very generously responded. 

Here are a few excerpts from the book:

" This book is dedicated to a visionary, a father, a husband, a grandfather, a friend, a mentor. For all whom he has inspired, and continues to inspire.

"Anil was a legend in IIT.."

"..We informally voted him as the "one person from IIT who should and could Prime Minister of India.."

"..He was a great debater and orator at IIT.."

" .. I don't know if Anil regards himself as spiritual but he is one of the most spiritual people I know. To take the joy and sorrow in his stride, to meet with triumph and disaster and treat those two impostors just the same is one of the first lesson from Gita..There is so much wisdom to be distilled from his blogs which speak matter of factly on impending death or his first novel completed in record time or his adorable grandson.."

"..I loved that ability to engage, enthuse and energize others ..surely on of the great qualities that made you a star on whatever planet you landed....so with unending gratitude for a friendship rare and greatly cherished..."

"..Of all the things you've given me over the years, your belief in me has been the most invaluable. I cannot imagine a world without you, your wisdom, guidance and support.."

"I cannot imagine this world without you and I am so happy that after everything we are celebrating your 75th. It has been an incredible journey and there is still much more to come.."

A few of these memories got left out in the hurry to have the book ready for the birthday but the authors tell me that they intend to include all the memories in the final book and also to find a way for all to look at it on the internet.

All I can say is that this is a very precious gift that cheers me up when I am in the doldrums and inspires me when I need a lift. So thanks to all of you generous people.

Wednesday, July 23, 2014

In defence of procrastination

Tuesday, July 22, 2014

Knowing the enemy- the shadow commander