Jacob
M. Appel writes a eulogy for sudden death.
"Six
decades after Great-Grandpa Simon plunged off his mortal coil, sudden death now
threatens to go the way of rotary telephones and passenger pigeons. The exact
rate at which we are not dropping dead is difficult to calculate: while the
government keeps meticulous records on the causes of our deaths, and the ages
at which we perish, it makes no effort to estimate the speed of our grand
finales. Nonetheless, as a physician, my anecdotal sense is that we’re not
dying nearly as suddenly as we once did. “When I started as an intern,” an
elderly colleague recently observed at a staff meeting, “most patients only
stayed in the hospital for a day or two. Either you got better or you didn’t.
Lingering wasn’t part of the protocol.” Today, in contrast, lingering is the
norm. Insurance companies force you out of the hospital, not rigor mortis.
Where a generation ago, the expectation was for men to retire at sixty-five and
keel over at sixty-seven—the basis for the pension plans now bankrupting
municipal governments—a massive myocardial infarction in one’s fifth or sixth
decade is no longer inevitable. Stress tests and statins and improved
resuscitation methods mean we are more likely to survive to our second heart
attack, live beyond our third stroke. Life ends with a whimper, not a bang.
That
is not to say that the Grim Reaper never arrives on a bolt of lightning: I’ve lost a medical school
mentor to a plane crash, a neighbor to suicide, a childhood friend to a brain
aneurysm. Thousands of Americans, smoking less but eating more, still do
succumb to heart attacks in their fifties and sixties. But we greet these swift
departures not only with grief, as we have always done, but also with a sense
of indignation simmering toward outrage. In an age of prenatal genetic testing
and full-body PET scans and rampant agnosticism, all varieties of death strike
many of us as anathema. Death without fair warning becomes truly obscene.
Increasingly,
our first associations with “sudden death” are metaphorical. “Sudden death”
terminates ice hockey games and World Cup matches, not the lives of our friends
and relatives. ..We can speak figuratively about sudden death, trivialize it—even
joke about it—because we do not actually expect to confront it. Not now, not
soon, not until we’ve been afforded ample time to prepare. And with each new
medical innovation, the odds are more likely that we won’t.
My
own family doctor has a sign on his office door that reads: “Sudden death is
God’s way of telling you to slow down.” If that is indeed the case, God has
been letting us accelerate with impunity for some time now.
In
1958, John Kenneth Galbraith’s Affluent Society reminded Americans
that, for the first time in human history, we lived in a civilization where a
majority of people did not have to worry about basic subsistence. More than
five decades later, we find ourselves belonging to the first human civilization
where sudden death is the glaring exception, not the expectation. The novelty
of our position is all too easy to forget; it is even easier to assume without
questioning that the present state of affairs reflects progress. After all,
which of us wouldn’t rather die well-prepared at ninety than suddenly at
fifty-five?
And
yet, the more I see of death, the less convinced I become that, in this medical
and social revolution, we have not lost something of considerable value. I
certainly don’t mean to glorify premature death: I suspect both “dying with one’s
boots on” and “living fast, loving hard and dying young” are highly overrated
feats. I do not believe that it is either dulce or decorum to die at twenty-five for one’s country. My concern is also not
with the economic effects of the long goodbye: the percent of Medicare dollars
spent in the last six months of life, the prospect of every gainfully-employed
worker supporting two retirees.
Rather,
my disquiet is principally for lost human dignity. Canadian right-to-die
activist Gloria Taylor, who suffers from Lou Gehrig’s disease, recently wrote: “I
can accept death because I recognize it as a part of life. What I fear is a
death that negates, as opposed to concludes, my life.” Sudden death is a
conclusion. Too often, I fear, the long goodbye devolves into a negation.
In
medical ethics—the field in which I do my academic research and writing—the way
we now die has led to the birth of entirely novel schools of thought. When life
was truly brutish and short, whether in Hobbes’s sixteenth century London or
Great-Grandpa Simon’s mid-twentieth century New York, the idealistic notion
that all life was sacred and must be preserved at any cost carried limited
weight in medical and moral circles. Although we have come to think of the
modern era, post-Karen Ann Quinlan and Terri Schiavo, as one in which we tolerate
less excess medical care than in past generations, the reality is that
physicians and patients were once much more accepting of death than they are
now. They had to be. The so-called “culture of life,” so recently embraced by
the Catholic Church and the Southern Baptist Convention, generally advances the
view that life in its essence, rather than its quality, is of paramount value.
The impact of this viewpoint upon modern healthcare and medical discourse
cannot be underestimated. Yet this dogma is far more a product of technology
and material change than of theological evolution. In a world where people
keeled over on street corners without advance notice, the notion of controlling
(or even defeating) death made little sense.
The
slow demise of sudden death has also reshaped vast aspects of our culture and
our iconography with little notice and less comment. How does it alter our
society to live in a world influenced by elder statement—and then to watch
those elder statesmen dotter into decrepitude? Franklin Roosevelt will forever
be a jaunty sixty-three, Adlai Stevenson a distinguished sixty-five, Estes
Kefauver—for those who still remember him—a scrappy sixty. In contrast, Ronald
Reagan, as his memory faded and his world grew smaller, lost much of his magic.
Clark Gable didn’t lock in his permanent sex appeal as Rhett Butler or Fletcher
Christian, but with a catastrophic thrombosis at fifty-nine. It’s not so clear
that an extra two decades enhanced Marlon Brando’s legacy.
Whether
these changes are beneficial or deleterious, they are likely irreversible—at
least by rational planning. Needless to say, we can’t ethically go around
inducing cardiac arrests in healthy sixty year olds. What we can do—and what we
have not been doing—is paying closer attention to the complex ways in which how
we die is transforming how we live.
I
fear the most subtle, yet most pernicious, consequence of a world in which
people do not die suddenly is a world in which people do not appreciate life. ..Today,
a brush with death often drives us to reexamine our lives.. Half a century ago,
men like my great-grandfather didn’t require such a brush with death: living
past fifty was itself enough of a risk to generate reflection and gratitude.
The older one gets the more what you say becomes relevant. Take the case of my wife who spent the last SIX MONTHS of her life in a hospital bed. She, who in her younger days was the one who had more joie de vivre than I have ever had despite all her medical problems which started when she was in her late 20's. Over the years we traveled to the U.K. and the U.S. and to several places in India and she was able to cope with her medical problems better than any person I know. It must have been extremely frustrating for her during her last illness because she was smart enough to realise that there was no escaping the inevitable. Fortunately she had me for support right till the end but I will have no such advantage. My only child is employed in the U.S. and I don't want to make her give up her career and come to Mumbai to look after me at any cost. Therefore I want to try and make sure that the hospital where I might end up has clear and specific instructions telling them what not to do to unnecessarily prolong the agony in the end. I can but hope that they will comply with my written instructions as I may not be in a position to enforce my will in the end.
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